Bottom line? And again, why ask me to come back to him if he still can't DO that? Being romantic just to get sex will be seen as manipulative. In the second, you instell a desire to avoid you, not connect. At one point my manager demanded I go see a medical doctor, which I already had, and because I was past two weeks of antibiotics and still sick, I was refused treatment. I felt so good in the beginning, the wanted to die from the guilt and then angry when I realized I was even more codependent with this guy. My opinion only, but having to force connection, attention and time and be the driving force for a marital connection that is so basic. well, that seems hollow to me also. That's just great! My wife wants to be left alone all I want is take care of her just be there for her to help her I don't understand when I'm sick I love for her to take care of me maybe just hold my hand any one can help me, After 22 years of marriage , I've learned this the hard way and am done once our oldest has graduated high school. I, ME, MINE!! Submitted by PoisonIvy on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 15:38. Yeah, I remember when she was sick and I was doing everything for her as I just let her rest. WHAT? Uggh. When I was3 months pregnant, wetook a trip to Mexico. Oops! Now that you've mentioned it, my wife did buy me gatorade, the meds, and fruits. WebIt is not a crime to not care for a spouse when they are sick. He didn't sleep well last night because he was stuffed up, coughing, etc. I am not my illness; I am a warrior. Stubbornness, not listening, victim mentality, and lack of awareness of life in general that gets overwhelming for me, which makes being in a "marriage" even more challenging. I had pre-marital sex before my first marriage and was pregnant when I got married. Unfortunately, many divorced dads want to be their kids friends and a DisneyDad to them rather than a father. I was out of character. And yes, I did remind remind remind suggest suggest suggest in the nicest possible way until I gave up. Everyone, strangers and those that love and tolerate him see an issue. My husband had the worst tantrum in front of a third person. Which to that, I feel he used me to have someone to marry and to love HIM, but he knew he wasn't going to return that. He called me unsubmissive and unchristian. His brother was paranoid-schizophrenic, diagnosed at 18 and died a few years ago from drug addiction. When I got to the ER and they did a CAT scan, they said it was about to burst. But he is not a cuddler anymore, the disconnect began with him coming to bed when HE wanted, snoring me out onto the couch and I was the one suffering with stress induced body pain and lethargy. 2023 ZIFF DAVIS CANADA, INC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. Our daughter just had surgery overseas. Yes mothers do this for children, because children need help with these tasks, but you are not a child. He sees the painted parts and not the unpainted parts, because to him this is a lot of work. Etc. We all experience them. I will keep that in mind. And.as I have confirmed my father ( the Narc ) did this as well? Of course my Hcalled right back saying he could not hear his phone(yet his friend heard his on the 2nd ring). Keep in mind that on his days off (F,ST,SN), he Does NOTHING! It CHANGED ME, and I'm not who I used to be. I was still in therapy and my therapist, who is a mutual friend and took me on pro-bono, helped me so much to rebuild my esteem, stop being co-dependent. (he can't) He pinches pennies, in trying to fix something that he's usually broken himself, but then it ends up costing us double or triple in do-overs. He is so sick and depressed. Im worried and curious what to look for. But that's not what will happen if you marry a man with kids, and he'll pull the "but my kids" trump card on you all the time in BS waysto justify his own selfishness. Ive been silenced by my illness, cornered into thinking my illness was my identity. Run!!! People with ADHD don't have to miss movies because they lose track of timethey just have to learn toset alarms. First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! Or begging him to drive you home. I can understand mentionin They ruin too many peoples lives. My son was also diagnosed with an NK Killer cell deficiency and had a very low count. That can be very hard to do! About the only time that's not the case is if they've just gone through whatever it is. To live content with small means; to be worthy, not respectable; to listen to stars and birds, babes and sages, with open heart; to study hard; to think quietly, act frankly, talk gently, this is my symphony. Do you think you can suggest implementing some of those changes without it dissolving into a fight? Partners are supposed to have each others backs, even when it doesnt seem like the best thing to do. So a few months ago I rang him to say my asthma was bad and I needed to get to I begged and pleaded with him to let me homeschool him because he was so sick. This is a never ending cycle that doesn't ever stop. If I am not in his presence at the moment, I am not on his mind. I am flaberggasted. Of course. He literally goes deaf ears when I tell him Im sick. Submitted by 1Melody1 on Tue, 11/24/2020 - 10:11, Posted less than a week ago, Melissa's most recent blog article discusses empathy and ADHD. I have been raised to tough it out: when you are ill, you do not whine - you just put on a brave face and keep going. I was treated for cancer a few years ago & this really threw things into sharp relief. Narcissistic SpouseDoesnt Care whether You Live Or Die. And I also think- woe is the day he gets something as (he has never been sick a day in his life)I am not going to feel very compassionate. You go through all of this, the burden of having a partner with a chronic illness who is always sick, the worry when I dont text back for a while and you know Im home alone, the household chores I cant do, not because you dont care about my illness, but because you care about me. Best Sex Positions to Improve Your Sex Life. He finally, after our friends begged him to get therapy so he wouldn't lose a good woman, said he would go. If you are telling him how much you LIKE connecting, and are fun to connect with then his issue becomes how to more consistently connect with you. Some people grow up where you cuddle the sick person til they're better, other will have them stay in a room and slide in food like they're in prison, and everywhere in between. She used to tell me, (when speaking of my husband), "I liked him, he never BOTHERED ME", and would praise him for leaving her alone, unlike her other children who " needed" her, as children DO. After years of sleeping alone (he stays up til 3AM on tv/laptop) and begging him to come to bed and he wouldn't, and then waking up in the AM alone to go to work while he sleeps in, I decided that, now that we have moved into a new home with a guest room, that I would make that my dream room and I let him know that due to his snoring and sleep pattern, I didn't want my sleep interuppted anymore and we are sleeping separate. Whenever I am sick, all I get from my husband is sorry. Impatient to a fault, hates to wait, hates to wait his turn. I have learned from him that I have always mothered him and even though I am awesome, I have given so much with littleeffort in return because he is hyperfocused on his priorities. God, family/friends, my job, my health and then him. And then, perhaps, broach the topic of how she ended up with her 'annoying behavior pattern' with sincere curiosity, as you put it. I felt like I was dying, inside and out. OP, assuming you guys have been married for a long time, possibly for more than five years and your work is what gets u sick and hurt regularly, I'm guessing she was not always like this. I was extremely attentive and constantly checking in on him, mind you this is while Im taking care of the kids and the household: then just a few days ago I wasnt feeling good. (Sadly, he was not compliant enough with the whole thing and it didn't work). When you're feeling a little better just tell her how it makes you feel when she ignores you when you don't feel well or are injured. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:36. No expression. But in the end, that doesn't matter either. The one hoarding in the place you are trying to sell? Submitted by adhd32 on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 13:56. Its pretty normalized at the point. I agree with Truth..his kids come first. And of course, my fave from Walter Mitty movie "Beautiful things don't ask for attention. If I ever mention his behavior of that day, he gets mad at me and tells me that "I Never let things go and that I am to blame because I can't "forgive" him". H's definition of love is thisafter I asked him "What does love mean to you?" 5 signs of an unsupportive husband during pregnancy. I could barely limp about and it was rapidly getting worse. Can totally relate to your post. I will always do my best but not at the price of my sanity.". with love respect and truth! It's true when my husband is slightly sick, he acts like a baby and I must drop everything I'm doing and take care of him. OMG. I was so ill from stress and he never checked on me. I think that men get used to a female (their mother) taking care of them while they are children, and subconsciously they maintain this view as they get to adulthood. I get dizziness, irritability, mood swings, left sided weakness, severe nerve pain, and killer headaches with my autoimmune attacks. Sorry guys, I just had to vent and get it out of my system. Best of Luck to you all and I look forward to reading your story. When he's not sleeping, he's making random 'sick' noises like sighing, I sleep sound and I do miss a warm body but I won't sacrifice my sanity for it especially when he turns his back on me and I feel alone even when he is there. I really would like some aspirin now and not in 5 hours! Confirmed. It was miserable. Do I wish that were not the case? I don't think this is necessarily an ADHD thing. We can't FIX some of this stuff on our own. I want to say Thank you for sharing your story. My husband is terrible when it comes to this. He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. Submitted by peach on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 16:07. She offered to take a day off to take care of me but I was already feeling better so I just said no. She even acts like I am somehow putting her out by not being 100%. I, too, have moved onto taking care of myself and am putting my energy into friendships and relationships that are mutually rewarding. Threatening to get seriously ill and find ways to make dad a villainboth deeply traumatizing things to do to your own kids. When he arrived, he did not hug me, ask how I was, or show ANY CARE. AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally H, has two basic emotions, FEAR and ANGER. And that doctor he threatened to sue likely saved his son's life. She was in her second semester of college and was busy with school and work. Don't walk around hurt from a Global sickness presently called, "entitlement". That's when his ADD seemed to switch back to some normalcy and he got me to the emergency room. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:19. But it only works if it's recent. If it's me first? Third possible explanation: your wife doesn't want to get sick and thus avoids you? Thanks a lot!" ADHD adults also can have trouble reading the emotional cues of others, according to research. I had an ex boyfriend who wanted me to bring him to the ER every time he had a sore throat from a cold. Thankfully, our two children were happy to help me. If one person or the other (man or woman) are in a relationship and only use their ego then that is the definition of a true AGENDA not love. You also don't have a role model to teach or even show you HOW to connect. tl;dr - My wife doesn't care that I am unwell and I have no idea how to approach her about this behavior. He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. (Statements I've heard dozens of times, and heard again this week). That is my story for anyone that can benefit from it. (And he sees this as a good thing)half done, with walls half painted. 3. I just need a bit of support lol anyway, my wife won't be back until 4 PM. Ziff Davis, LLC BBB Business Review. Been married 13+ yrs and anytime I am sick, according to him I act like I am dying. (Soup after you just threw up is too soon). You love me. Like I was some animal in the Zooand he was just coming to see the specimen out of curiosity. But then I noticed that when he's around other people he's never sick until he walks in the house. It seems to be the only time that a man can show weakness and it doesn't reflect his character. You must have JavaScript enabled to use this form. I didn't get medical help until nearly 12 hours later. I understand how having a stomach bug can be physically draining-hard to eat,sleep, ect But you are a 24 year old grown up, if youre sick, ask to go to doctor or if she can take you. (Daddy issues?). Even says just because I am sick, he is not going to pet me. How a Narcissist Treats a Chronically Ill Spouse. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Yeah, he's not that thoughtful. We're still at the beginning of our diagnostic and therapeutic journey. Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. I was trying to do something simple. I had to call my mother to take me.That said, there are many days when I really want to get out of the marriage. And when things happen to the kids the "mom" is always like I didn't know he would do that to our kids and abuse them even though I did. Become a Mighty contributorhere. I bet if I got cancer he'd go "Great! Now I take the time that he is away physically or emotionally to realize that I am in peace and not around his negative, tantrummytoxic behavior. She says take medicine or go to doctor. How does someone even DO that? I am ok. That is my H 100%! You should absolutely not expect to be treated as a child by your wife, and don't put your wife in the roll of your mother. After 2 years of therapy for myself, I am in a better place. Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 06:51. And now that I have, I have a new perspective. Yeahand just imagine trying to trust people when you grow up with everyone telling you you don't fit inand if you let that pain in all the time, instead of shut it out, you would be a puddle on the floor. WebIm worried about my chest pain. Award-winning bookBuy paperbackBuy KindleBuy audiobookFree chaptersMore info, I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. And although I don't think I have verbalized it completely just yet, I KNOW that THIS is the total crux of MY difficulty with H. We LOVE differently. That's why the 'pursuit' or 'in your face' strategy that you are using fails. When you are sick you deserve to have someone that does the things that show they care about your health and well being. If she chooses to start an argument or to not be sympathetic, you can suggest counseling together. There are times I still wonder how our husbands can continue to deny who they are, and why so MANY people, have difficulty with them. And I also have to include.I have a very low toleranceto this kind of behavior!! I had to pay out of pocket to see a naturopathic doctor trained by ILADS(it is the best training for Lyme disease and tick borne infections treatment.) Yes, I chose someone who couldn't love,or who chose NOT to love. WebA female reader, aunt honesty +, writes (19 November 2011): It doesn't mean that he doesn't care. We are at retirement age, but will never GET to retire. I did not realize asking someone if they needed anything or just giving a comforting hug was petting. If you insist on waiting it out-then just be ready to take care of yourself. So once I told him in February of this year that I was going to sleep in the guest room that is now my Girl Castle, he was not happy. He doesn't seem to catch up or even see it. Nothe kids aren't "more important" than her. My "H" is 100% total Narcissistic! My husband continued to be gone 4-5 nights a week with activities and my kids were completely out of control during this time, so I was exhausted and dealing with severe behavior issues each evening. Fortunately, theres a The unfinished projects and dreams. NOTHING HELPED. I actually yelled at him, told him how selfish he is. I would like to see him live with this and all the pain and cognitive dysfunction it causes. in Psychology. Interesting. Someone who at times would look at me and just smile, (as if we shared a special secret), with eyes that showed gentleness, patience and strength, but with a reverent humility. The ADHD Effect on Marriage was listed in Huff Post as a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read. I have been enlightened and no longer feel alone. Any time I am not at 100% to run the household, restock the coffee, cook meals, put the kids to bed, do the laundry, etc. You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. Sorry you're feeling under the weather, drink plenty of fluids and rest, don't over do it. WebBy sick, I mean a minor cold. Submitted by AdeleS6845 on Wed, 12/14/2016 - 08:44. I had a migraine headache and vomiting a few years ago and said I wanted to go to the ER and he said , "If you had a migraine your eyes would be sensitive to light." The saying goes, "Don't be mad when I pull a you, on you." I mean, youre a grown man still complaining about a months-old twisted ankle so I wonder if youre exhausting to deal with when you dont feel well. People are either takers or givers. Because in his mind, I'm supposed to be taking care of him.not the other way around. You only get 1 life and your life matters, period. Those of us who marry into it, with the person NOT thinking their ADHD is that big of a deal, create a lot of consequences for themselves AND for us, since in marriage "two become one". His answer was absolutely not. I am a Marvel hero, as you have said. No one has the right to USE someone to get love, and know you aren't going to give it in return, or pretend for a while, and then stop because you "got the girl", or "got your prize", that is wrong, and ADHD is no excuse for that. We went to the diner and my life changed. But the AD/HD is so strong, it overrides that. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 14:55. There's lots of reasons he may have decided to not come over, and 99% of them aren't the selfish stuff you're thinking of. I was about to turn 40 and here I was watching a grown man turn red in the face, speak horribly to himself for a broken scraper. My H, and many others, expect love, support, attention and all the good stuff without being self aware enough to understand that they are not giving it in return and become very angry when it's not provided. it's not the same as OCD. And that was just with a scratchy throat. I left work early and took them to hospital, tended them there, brought them home and generally took care of as much as I could to keep them comfortable and on the way to mending throughout. I never get any sympathy from him, but my children hug me, draw me upside down rainbows because I am in pain and can't smile, and try to help me. I don't think it's right, but I think it's true. Being Married to Someone Who Doesn't Care. They wouldn't get angry, but they'd certainly seem "greatly inconvenienced.". All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. However Ive come to the realization that hes not the same as me. If the tables were turned, I know he'd be acting like he was at death's door if he simply had the sniffles. Some people have zero bedside manner. Im the one who is on disability and hasnt worked in two years. Emotionless. (again, fear). You are very caring and shower her with affection and loveYou respect her parents and treat them wellYou respect your wife and support her to achieve her dreamsYour presence makes her feel happy (because she loves you so much)She considers you as her soulmateShe feels safe and secure to be with youShe trust you so muchMore items Very very low tolerance since this is completely unforgivable as it should be? Terms. If you DON'T have any kids yourselfplease run extra far. Have enough respect without ego to treat yourself with a non-toxic man or woman. Being unhelpful when someone is sick or injured strongly suggests either Borderline PD or Narcissistic PD. If you live together, your partner may want to sleep in their own bed with you. He loves, smoking, drinking, games, cars, machines, jokes and flirting. It is not only me he has no sympathy for, it is his children as well. Do you think being obnoxious made him FOND of me? Talk about unprofessional. I agree his kids should come first. I truly don't think he SEES the damage that all of this caused me AND him, mainly because he still doesn't think his ADHD has that much affect on our daily lives. I am, however, hesitant, super hesitant, to engage when 90 percent of what comes out of his mouth is a lie. Some of the scorn heaped upon ADHDers by their non-ADHD partners must CERTAINLY be readable in their partner's body languageeven if their partner is trying to be nice. Submitted by ppester1 on Thu, 03/02/2017 - 14:44. Now I'm going to get sick! I know this may sound "corny", lol, but I don't think I'm too off base with this. His sister died from alcoholism about 8 years ago, she was only 51. Nothing builds or sticks over the years. Jason and Maria want something entirely different out of the same marriage. I wasn't even allowed to adjust my own pillows. Iris is somewhat of a unicorn a zebra unicorn even! He appears not to care youre pregnant and youre feeling unsupported. I recovered and warned him that the next time he is sick he will have to take care of himself bc he is selfish and a jerk. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. Submitted by sickandtired on Fri, 12/11/2020 - 08:44. And, yes, I am 100% sure it's not all ADHD. Iris is also an Invisible Illness Warrior. Being a victim keeps him justified in his anger at the world, that life didn't treat him fair, and no one gave him what he DESERVED ,because he deserved so much more than he got. Sign #8: He is fine with you hanging around other men. It doesn't appear in any feeds, and anyone with a direct link to it will see a message like this one. Eventually, he got through it and started healing. #1. Imagine that. And my mother ( the other one with ADHD who I got it from? And, when I'm not 100%, then he's not being cared for. We don't have kids yet. And I take. He got mad at me because I went to grab the phone charger in the wall and didn't see it was connected to his phone (I needed to have a phone with me if I had to drive myself to the hospital in the middle of the night), he snapped at me that I am always in pain and should rent a hotel room in the hospital, etc, etc, and threw a different charger at me. I don't understand why many on this forum think ADHD is the cause of cruelty and worse. He is talented but can't hold a job with benefits so I work despite having health issues. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. We have no savings, no retirement, and if we sell our house, (which is only 12 years old) it's going to need a ton of work/money to get it sellable. After I broke my foot, the Orthopedist put me in a non weight bearing cast. You might be thinking, wow, why be with someone like that? And vice versa. He said I always run to my room when this happens and it will happen again. But the way to stay unique and independent is to define when you will connect, rather than wait for him to notice at any time. Reach out in an inviting way. Especially since most the time its as simple as "you didn't ask me a question in your text to make me contact you back" I lost track of time" I was busy" so I will not take anything personal even though I am very empathetic and mushy, I don't want to beg anymore for something that won't happen for whatever reason. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 18:15. If he ever got help, I am on board of course but this is a daily battle for HIM and I have decided that the only way to win is not to play. I think so. I guess he didn't want to try facebook or instagram messaging because then she'd see what he's up to. But one person doing all the nice things, loving things is very hard and eventually we all get tired of begging. Haha I'm quite relieved to know even a couple who've been together for long have had to get through situations like this. WebNow I'm going to get sick! When he is having a great day, like this past Saturday, my efforts were worth it but I won't pretend that he is fixed. God forbid that I ever get anything serious. It means you're a dumb ass push over that loves acting like a victim. to stand on my own and realize that until he gets help, this will not change and so it was time to live and grow and be "the mistress of my domain and my life". I will always do my best but not at the price of my sanity. When my husband started his first affair, I WAS a good woman. I think many spouses with ADD are extremely selfish and will never realize that a healthy relationship requires compromise, compassion, and patience. Everyone desires someone to pay attention to them from time to time, without having to demand it or schedule it . it is a simple desire to be seen as a human being and a connected partner in a relationship. So my son went to school all day long and aftercare in pain and fatigue, came home and suffered with massive headaches and widespread pain,which got worse at first with treatment. Anyway. Wanting to CONNECT? Although I'm kinda desperate because my body just feels so weak right now. Whenever he's sick I ask if I can go get anything from the store for him or do anything for him. 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